Talking to Kids About Grief: Gentle Conversations and Books That Can Help

In the wake of recent tragedies that have deeply impacted our community, many parents are struggling with how to talk to their children about grief, loss, and big, confusing feelings. At Well Mind Body, we want you to know you’re not alone. Whether your family has experienced the loss of a loved one or your child is navigating secondary grief through the stories of others, it’s okay to not have all the answers. What matters most is showing up with honesty, compassion, and presence.

Here are a few steps to guide these tender conversations:

Be honest, but age-appropriate

Children don’t need every detail, but they do need the truth in words they can understand. Avoid euphemisms like “went to sleep” and instead use clear language like “died” to reduce confusion.

Follow their lead

Some children may ask many questions. Others may seem to move on quickly. All responses are valid. Stay open to follow-up conversations and express that you’re always there to talk.

Validate and normalize their feelings

Let them know that sadness, anger, fear, and even laughter are all okay. Grief isn’t a linear process—it’s a swirl of emotions that come and go.

Create space for expression

Use drawing, journaling, books, or storytelling to help children externalize what’s happening inside. Sometimes, art can say what words cannot.

Books That Help Kids Navigate Grief

Below are a few thoughtful, therapist-recommended books we love at Well Mind Body. Each one creates a doorway into talking about grief and loss.

How I Feel: Grief Journal for Kids

By Mia Roldan, LCSW, LCDC

This guided journal offers thoughtful prompts to help children name their feelings, explore memories, and express hopes for healing. Journaling is a powerful way for kids to reflect, process, and regain a sense of control during uncertain times.

Everywhere, Still

Written by M.H. Clark, Illustrated by Claire Lemp

A beautifully illustrated book that tenderly reminds children that even though someone is gone, love is never lost. Through poetic language and soft imagery, it reassures kids that connections continue—everywhere, still.

A Terrible Thing Happened

By Margaret M. Holmes, Illustrated by Cary Pillo

This book is ideal for children who have experienced a traumatic event or witnessed something frightening. Through the story of Sherman the raccoon, kids learn that it’s okay to feel confused, scared, or angry—and that help is available.

The Memory Box: A Book About Grief

By Joanna Rowland, Illustrated by Thea Baker

This heartfelt story helps children explore ways to remember a loved one while carrying them forward. It gently introduces the idea of creating a “memory box” to hold keepsakes, stories, and love.

At Well Mind Body, our trauma-informed therapists specialize in working with children, teens, and families who are navigating loss and life’s hardest moments. Whether your child is feeling sad, shut down, or unsure how to speak, we are here to support their unique process.

Please remember that you are not alone and you don’t need to do this perfectly. You only need to be present.

Visit us at http://www.wellmindbody.co for more resources, referrals, or to book a session.

Thank you for being here.

Dr. E